A  Good  Quality  Love - Life

If you're not sure whether you have a good quality sex life then you probably don't, it's almost as simple as that! But if you do think you have a good quality sex life, you still actually may not!! Confused? Don't be, here's why:-

Many couples really don't know the difference between quantity and quality when it comes to sex. If you are having sex 3 times a week and a good few orgasm are flowing, you may think that your sex life
is one of good quality. But the real clue is in how you feel when you think about yourself and your partner in terms of a sexual couple. It's not about whether either or both of you can reach a climax that's important, rather how you get there, yes it is more about the journey and not so much the destination - like a lot of things in life!

Therefore, if you can enjoy being in every stage of the journey for it's own sake, because after all you are being totally intimate with the 'object' of your desire and the person that you love and trust, you then can relinquish the need to express your sex life in terms of quantity and frequency.

This attitude of 'more is more', is often supported by questionnaires which ask "How often do you and your partner have sex"? "How many times a week on average"? Now it does appear that a lot of people tend to exaggerate in these circumstances for fear of being seen to be lacking in some way, which obviously renders the 'study' invalid.

When a husband or wife complains that they 'never have sex anymore', it is seldom an accurate statement and not necessarily what they are missing. Intimacy, closeness within their relationship has deteriorated resulting in them not being as 'intimate' in the bedroom.

A really good quality sex life starts and ends with intimacy. The level of intimate involvement you have as a couple will determine the depth of your sex life. A deep and intimate sex life will most likely lead to more frequent love-making, but as you can see frequency is not the determiner of quality.

Look for stimulation in all the right places and one of them is, hopefully, lying right next to you in your bed! Yes, even after 20 years of marriage, if you both love and respect each other there is no reason that you can't entice, excite and enrapture each other til the end of your days.

The mind is an amazing tool, it can work for you or against you, it's your choice. You can let it tell you that you've 'been there, seen it, done it', with your partner, you know them so well sexually that there are no surprises left.

You may think that the thrill of the chase has waned and now you need some new enticement. Or you can concentrate on everything that you love about your partner and all they love about you.

Start by telling them something you have always found extremely appealing about them sensually and sexually. It could be the way they look at you just before you kiss, or how their body responds to your touch, there are hundreds of possibilities so use your imagination.

This also is really where love makes all the difference. You are with your partner because you love them and many things about them. Therefore it isn't all about the physical which obviously changes
over time. If you are making love and not just having sex it will be much easier for you to continue your sex life long into old age, if you wish.

This is something you can research any time you are alone, so that when you and your partner are together you are ready and eager to re-experience the allure of your mate. If you both employ this technique in your daily lives you will be very surprised and happy with the benefits you will receive and at how much more worthwhile your sex life will be.

How to capitalise your sexual opportunity:-

Many couples will say that they simply do not have the time or energy to have a more fulfilling love-life. Yes, it really is understandable with all the stresses of modern living - working jobs, raising children, looking after the home and finding time to engage in leisure activities just for fun, that people would see their time as compromised.

Fortunately there are ways to ensure that you can find time for the really important aspects of your relationship and life. A fairly typical scenario may be a wife in the kitchen washing-up and her husband in the lounge flicking through a paper waiting for his wife to join him. To capitalise your sexual opportunity here you both need to be in the same room.

In this scenario the husband may be steering clear of the kitchen for fear that he may be roped-into some unpleasant chore. The trick here is for him to 'make himself busy' by putting his attention on his wife. He could offer to make her a coffee or pour her a glass of wine, she may very much appreciate this as she probably won't have thought to do it for herself.

If you were to explore this scenario in your relationship, placing the drink in a convenient location and maybe kissing the back of her neck as you do so, your woman likely would feel very appreciated by you and a bit special in the moment. The fact that you have left the comfort of your easy-chair to be with her in the kitchen will mean a great deal to her.

 If in your relationship it is the husband that spends a lot of time in the kitchen, then obviously the situation would be reversed. Play it by ear and give your partner the type of attention they
particularly like themselves. Either way, it is usually more fun doing chores when you have some interesting and stimulating company.

So, what has this all got to do with your sex life? Well, frequent appreciative and sensual gestures such as brushing a light kiss across her cheek, with your hand placed momentarily on her waist can be very stimulating for a woman. Likewise, leaning forward and gently but sensually kissing your man's neck just beneath his ear as you hand him his drink will add a certain allure to the occasion. By the time the dishes are done, you could be heading off somewhere more comfortable hardly able to wait to get more intimately involved!

There are myriad opportunities like this within your home and you can be as adventurous as you like if you have the freedom of privacy. Naturally it will take a bit more engineering if you have children to consider.

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