An Active Sex Life
The Top Three Factors Of An
Active Sex Life are:-
1)
Your attitude about and towards your partner goes a long way to
igniting or extinguishing the flame of passion and sexual desire in you both. If you cultivate admiration,
appreciation and respect for your partner, for the type of person they are and for their innate qualities and
capabilities, you are literally sowing the seeds of love, attraction and passion.
This dynamic is actually a natural human condition, whatever we admire
and respect we tend to feel a type of love for. It could be a sport, a car, natural phenomena, music or an iconic
figure. We feel a natural inclination to want to become more involved and be more familiar with our particular
passion. I'm not talking about obsession here, although there is a fine line that must always be observed in these
matters, but I'm sure you get my meaning.
When you feel this kind of admiration and respect for your partner,
your love and intimacy levels rise and you quite naturally want to be as close as possible with them which evokes
desire and sexual
stimulation.
2)
Putting in the effort to find opportunities to make love. Thinking
about making love with your husband/wife and working that into your schedule so that you optimise any spare time
you may have. It may mean eating a sandwich in you car on your way home at lunch time so you can have the best part
of an hour alone together.
Also you could try going to bed earlier so you can wake up sooner and
make love in the morning before work - this is a wonderful way to start your day! Or record programmes that you
usually watch
later in the evening and spend that time in bed with your partner and catch up on your programme when you are
alone.
Even the action of looking for ways and opportunities for you two to
get together in a passionate and sexual way, regardless of whether you find any, focuses your attention on this
area of your lives and in itself is an important factor for ensuring an active sex life.
3)
Perceiving yourself as a sexually attractive person is an important
key. This has a huge influence on the quality and quantity of your sex life. Whether you are male of female, seeing
and feeling yourself as desirable and sexy will give you more confidence in your sexual prowess. This attitude will
stimulate your sensual nature and your partner will pick up on the signals you will subconsciously be giving
out.
Try it for yourself - think of your sexual self in the way that you'd
like your partner to perceive you (maybe they already do!). 'Feel' their desire for you and 'hear' them tell you
how sexy and attractive they find you, how much they love your body etc.
If you take only 5 minutes alone to try this out and take it
seriously, I assure you that you will feel very sensually and sexually alive. Now, imagine employing this technique
as part of your life in general and if both partners are 'priming'
themselves this way their sex life will be a wonderful success!
What Exactly Is An Active
love-Life?
What an active love-life really means is not what most people seem to
think. In general it appears that a couples' love-life is thought to be active if they are having sex frequently.
This description, unfortunately, falls very short of what an active sex life really is. So to clarify this point,
your sex life is active if:-
- Both you and your partner think about each other sensually and
sexually at some point every singly day, even if it's only for a fleeting
moment.
- You often and easily include the topic of your sex life as part of
your normal conversations with each other. This could be when remembering certain occasions that stand out because
of their uniqueness etc. It is also important that you can comfortably compliment your partner on their sexual
attentiveness and their desire for you.
- You flirt with each other as a normal part of your relationship when
appropriate, just like when you were first dating but obviously now it will be more intimate and equally exciting.
The ability to flirt naturally with your partner and enjoy it will greatly stimulate your sensual and sexual
feelings and the possibility of making love will be ever present - you will only have to wait for an appropriate
opportunity.
- You both value the quality of your sex life and care greatly about each others
enjoyment. If you can receive pleasure through ensuring your partner is happy there will be no effort involved in
achieving a healthy, active sex life. Through the fulfilling of their desire is the satisfying of your own. When
your purpose is to give as much pleasure as you can to each other there is no limit to how amazing, healthy and
active your sex life can be.
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