Better Sex Life

Outrageous, exciting, disgusting and boring!  Either or all of these descriptions can apply to anyone's sex life at certain points in their relationship.

 Some people think that they couldn't have a better sex life! They can't stop talking about it - even if everyone they know is sick of listening. To them it seems wonderful, exciting, fulfilling and frequent - how could they possible improve it?

Others are keeping quiet about this area of their relationship; something is not right. Sex is either non-existent, infrequent, unfulfilling and/or perfunctory. They may reveal their unhappiness and their desire for a better sex life to a very close friend in the hope of getting some good advice, but sometimes they feel ashamed, unattractive and definitely not sexy!

500 Lovemaking Tips & Secrets by Michael Webb is an excellent source of inspiration for couples who want to re-invent and better their sex life. It is intelligent, fun and sexy and thankfully not vulgar or inappropriate in any way.

You may assume that the person who is always broadcasting must have a better sex life than you, that they have obviously 'got it right', as they seem so enamoured with it. This is not necessarily the case.

They are having very frequent 'swinging from the chandelier' type sex with their partner, there may be orgasms leaping off the walls, but their sex life could be totally lacking in intimacy which is a key ingredient in a happy fulfilling relationship and better sex life.

Intimacy is the partner of trust and these are the 'glue' which hold a relationship together, you can't have one without the other and a relationship cannot grow and deepen without either. A deep and intimate relationship guarantees a deeply fulfilling and much better sex life.

The couple whose sex life is missing, or consists of an occasional accidental drunken encounter usually are unhappy with their relationship. They may tell themselves that they are not really bothered about sex as it isn't everything' and 'I can live without it - it's just the icing on the cake'.

Some cakes are meant to have icing! When a relationship has all the necessary ingredients at its disposal it will have the deepest, richest and most exquisite icing imaginable, 'icing' makes for a better sex life! It's not the quantity but the quality of your sex life that is your relationship barometer.

The real reasons that people cheat isn't because they have a bad sex life - it is because they don't have a good relationship! They don't have a good relationship because they are individually neglecting important areas of themselves and each other.

If you think that your sex life needs help, first of all I would suggest that you take some quiet time alone with a pen and notepad. Write down all the aspects of your partner that intrigued, excited and impressed you most when you were both first in love and had a better sex life, when you couldn't wait to see each other, spoke several times a day on the phone and realised that you wanted and needed no one else - when the thought of ever having  problems in your sex life would never have entered your head.

I know that sexual attraction may come high up on this list as there's usually plenty of sexual energy flowing during the first flush of attraction and love. But also on your list you will notice aspect of your partner that you have long since forgotten as they seem not to be present anymore. Why is this? How will knowing about this give you better sex life?

The need for a better sex life has a lot to do with these 'missing' aspects. These aspects are areas of your partner that you once loved and respected, parts of them that ignited your desire to be close and intimate. Take just one of the now missing elements and without placing blame try to see why it is absent, at what point did it start to disappear?

I warn you now, you will find out a lot about yourself and your partner using this method. If you gradually address each of the missing aspects one at a time you will find the undoing of your relationship and the real reasons for the deterioration of your sex life.

Now you have the best chance of re-creating what you once had with your partner and of embracing a truly fulfilling, exciting and intimate relationship. Start flirting with each other again, enjoy the excitement of the chase and every aspect of your sex life will feel like the first time the two of you were intimate in this way - only now you will have a much better sex life!

 You may well now be ready to employ the techniques and suggestions contained in Michael Webb's book  '500 Lovemaking Tips and Secrets.  If you think you are, get you very own copy by  CLICKING HERE.