Couples Fight

Most couples fight directly because of their individual core beliefs. Not all of their beliefs, mostly the 'limiting' ones. It would pay us well to know what ours actually are. There are different ways to discover for ourselves what beliefs are causing most of our problems.

As I mentioned in my previous article on this subject, the reasons couples fight are not usually as apparent as we might think they would be. As couples we tend to argue over things that we think we find important and do not take thetime to investigate our own real motives.

Obviously it would be difficult to stop right in the middle of a couples fight and ask ourselves what our intentions are at that point. This is why it is crucial to spend time alone in between fighting to allow us to investigate our deep seated opinions and discover as many of our core beliefs as possible.

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If we ignore the importance of determining what our own self-limiting beliefs are, we take the risk of living an in-authentic life because our thoughts and actions are predetermined by 'default'.

We are operating on auto-pilot but fooling ourselves into thinking that we are choosing our own course. Some of this type of 'programming' is so embedded in our subconscious that if we directly challenged ourselves about it we wouldn't be able to see it for looking, which is why couples fight so easily.

To understand why couples fight, what we need to do is go in under the radar, so to speak. For instance, if say I had a limiting belief around money but didn't 'consciously' believe that I did, I would find out for sure by doing something like the following example.

I would take a 20 dollar or 20 euro note out of my wallet and decide to tear it up or set it alight. This would be my test and I'd have to do it. Maybe if I was really well -off it would have to be a much larger sum to truly test my core belief.

If I felt unable to carry out the test, this would be the ideal time to discover what my limiting beliefs around money are. I would concentrate on how I felt in my body about destroying the note and start asking myself questions connected to the feelings. What does this have to do with reasons why couples fight?

Often the answers you get during this process lead to even more interesting questions, and by the way, most people who carry out this scenario do not actually destroy the note but they do discover something about themselves and in this instance it would be why they have a couples fight over finances.

We do not need to use such extreme measures to test all our core beliefs. The idea is to use a thought connected with some issue that we often have a couples fight over. Then we must ask ourselves the best questions to stimulate an honest answer.

Give yourself some time alone to explore yourself and you will be amazed at what you find and impressed with the changes you can make to improve yourself and your relationship and to stop having a couples fight as often as you do!

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