Relationship Saboteurs

Relationship Saboteurs are for the most part just regular people like you and me. The page title here does sound a little subversive, I must admit, so I'd like to talk a little here about what exactly defines relationship saboteurs and what can be done about them.  Yes, there are some people who actively plot and intend to sabotage relationships, but often those relationships belong to other people and not themselves. The relationship saboteurs I refer to here are those who unfortunately manage to sabotage their own relationships without actually meaning to.

 Sabotaging patterns learned at a young age often get buried in our subconscious, and as they were probably taught by example and not instruction we wouldn't have actualised any thoughts around them at the time, therefore as adults we tend to act upon the feelings that these internalised patterns give us but can't actually understand why we are experiencing them.

Recently I learned of a fantastic book on the subject of relationship saboteurs (pictured on the right), written by Randi Gunther Phd. It comprehensively outlines 10 behaviors that can sabotage your relationship, complete with a questionaire so you can easily ascertain where you stand on the this issue and whether you yourself are sabotaging your own relationship.

In the event that you discover that you are indeed a relationship saboteur who is practising certain relationship wrecking behavior, this book will help you to understand where it originated and how to change it. It explains in detail a seven-step recovery programme which you can implement for yourself for any of the 10 types of sabotaging behavior outlined. 

So, if you think you could benefit from Relationship Saboteurs:- Overcoming the Ten Behaviors that Undermine Love  click on this link and take a look for yourself. You will then be able to 'look inside' the book to get an idea of its structure and attitude before deciding whether to buy it.